Grid for forgiveness?

[indigowings]

Hi everyone. I am new here and I am just starting to work with crystals. I am having issues with forgiving and letting go of hurt feelings and I would like to use a crystal grid and reiki to help start and aid that healing process. If anyone can help me out or point me in the right direction it would be much appreciated.

I have another question, maybe this should be a different topic but how do you know if you are choosing the right crystal(s) when buying in person or over the internet? Is there a feeling or a pull? Sorry I am new at this and have so many questions on getting started.

TIA

[Peace]

no apologies, sweets, that's how we all learn. yes, there's usually a 'feel' of them, even online. it's like you can see something and just 'know' it's your's. as far as what crystals to use, here's some that may help....

kunzite: divine love, emotional healing, activation of the heart's knowing

black stones of all kinds: dispell negative energies and aid in healing. (of course they all have unique properties, as well, but this is a common trait amongst them all).

gaia stone: connection with the heart of the earth, love and compassion, emotional healing, goddess energies.

dioptase: forgiveness, compassion, release of karmic patterns, prosperity.

chrysoprase: growth, compassion, connection with nature, forgiveness, altruism.

green calcite: relaxation, emotional balance, release of stress and resentment, connection with the heart.

clear calcite: insight, clarity, manifestation, forgiveness.

((i could go on, but i think that's enough to start with. have you any books of stones? a great one is 'the book of stones' and 'crystal bible'. feel free to ask any question, hun. we love to discuss this stuff and help others learn too. lol)).

[nathangela]

I'm having some of the same issues.....glad this question came up....I'm going to get a couple of these stones I don't have!

[nathangela]

How bout Rose Quartz as well!

[indigowings]

Thank you aura and Angela. I really appreciate the all the help especially since I am just starting my collection. Of the above mentioned I have one rose quartz and one hematite. I do have another black stone but I can't remember what it is, I am thinking onyx or obsidien?

I another question. I was reading the Does Size Matter thread and I am thinking that intent matters more, but should the crystal at the center of the grid be bigger? Also is there one kind of crystal that would be best at the center of the grid?

I have been wanting to get a book on crystals too but have been trying to decide which one(s) to get so I am going to check both of those out today. I have a reiki session at 2pm today (yay!) so I am going to see if her shop carries books and crystals, or if not see if she knows anyone in the area who does.

[indigowings]

I forgot to add that I recieved my first sugilite in the mail yesterday. From what I have read about it would this also be a good crystal to use in my grid?

[Peace]

as for size and intent; yes, intent IS the most important thing. as for the stone in the center; well, i usually do use a larger, upright quartz point, but in some of my grids i use a candle. when i need to use the grid i light the candle. (some grids are for specific uses; not necessarily a constant use, ya know? so when i need the use of it i'll light the candle and meditate using it.). but, always remember that although everyone may have great ideas, always follow your heart and do what feels right to you. if it is right for you, then you'll know it, and that's the way to go. you may start out going along the lines of suggestions(as most do), but then you're higher self will guide you from there. i'm happy for you starting on this journey. stones are a wonderful addition to any spiritual work and all normal life stuff too.

[♥Starlene]

Oh I most definitely feel like there is a pull to a crystal that you see either online or in a shop...

I think rose quartz would be great for you to use in regards to forgiveness

[indigowings]

Aura using a candle is a great idea. I never would have thought of that. I am going to try to keep the forgiveness one running for awhile (once I get my crystals) but I will definitly use the a candle once I get the supplies and experience to make another grid.

And I think rose quartz would be really good to include. Since I haven't found another shop around here yet (the one I had been to closed) I am going to do some online research today and see if anything "speaks" to me.

Thank you all so much for your help!

[Anamere]

Hi Tia and Welcome,

I'm not here too often but I'm glad I popped in today and found this post. For starters something to keep in mind is Quartz is wonderful to use as you can charge it with any energy you want. It is a very versitile stone. I mention this as it's good to not let having a certain stone for a certain "project" keep us from our intended purpose.

I hope that makes sense

I also wanted to share that I really believe forgiveness is the doorway to inner peace. In thinking of Forgiveness as a doorway it's good to remember you can open that door and walk through it... peace is always waiting for you on the other side. But you always hold the keys to that door.

With that said. I think anything you use as a physical reminder (placing an intention of forgiveness on it) will work. A grid would be perfect for this, but you could also use a stone in your pocket, burn a candle while thinking of forgiveness or other things as well. Making the intention that "I am forgiving of self and others"

Remembering to forgive yourself for holding on to the emotions tied to the event is an important element in the forgiveness process. We all forget this part from time to time. At least I know I do. Again, you hold the keys its your door, you have to be willing to open it.

Whether we realize it or not we hold on to much and often create additional suffering for the part we play in our interactions with others.

An example of this would be my forgiving a person who molested me as a child. For years I would think or say "I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you" and would wonder why I still felt hurt or angry. I later learned to forgive myself too.

Now you might be thinking why would a person need to forgive herself when she was molested. Well, I was holding on to anger. I was holding on to pain. I felt enormous guilt for caring about him and feeling Love for him as well. I was holding on to the thought that I was a victim. So I forgave these things.

I did this by making statements (and genuinely connecting with the emotions tied to the "stuff") like:"I forgive myself for holding on to anger, I forgive myself for holding on to the pain for so many years, I forgive myself for feeling guilty for caring about you as a person, I forgive my thoughts of being a victim... I am free and fill myself with thoughts of peace"

And in a very short time, I have forgiven him.

I share this with you as an example that we really can forgive. Even the really painful "stuff". We have to search deep within ourselves to see both sides of the situation.

What ever area you need to forgive try making statements to the person (or you could write this down and place it in a grid under the master stone) or event arranged something like "I forgive you (insert name) for (whatever the event) I Love you and choose to see you in your light.. I release you and let you go. I forgive myself for (insert thoughts tied to this event that you want to forgive) I Love myself and release myself from this I choose to see myself in my light. We are innocent we are both free, we now have peace"

I'm not sure if any of this ramble can help. But I send my thoughts and Prayers for Peace and forgiveness to help you heal.

(((hugs)))

[nathangela]

Awesome Anamere!I wrote this down.I love it!